Earlier this month I turned the grand old 19. With that comes nothing but good memories that I shared with some of my closest friends that I’ve made since being at college. Over the years though, I have felt like I have learned a thing or two from either just living or my mom, so here are 9 things that I have learned in 19 years.
1. DONT SWEAT THE SMALL THINGS
Okay. Okay. I know that is something that I still do, but I would like to believe that it is something that I don’t do as often and when I do not to let it affect me for a long period of time. The small things that we often sweat about in ten years will be something that doesn’t even cross our minds.
2. FIND JOY IN EVERYDAY
Being someone that suffers from pretty bad anxiety and depression this is something that I have to remember to do daily and sometimes even multiple times a day. It’s extremely easy for me to just lay in my bed and not speak to anyone, but living in the real world I cannot simply do that.
3. FIND YOUR “PEOPLE”/”PERSON”
This is something that can be taken many ways, but the way I am talking about isn’t romantic. It’s that person that you know that you can go to and they will always be there to talk to you. Finding that person or that group of people is hard trust me, but once you do it’s so worth it.
4. DON’T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF
Again this is something that I am so bad at doing myself, but want to believe that I don’t do it as often. I do. Daily. I’m human I pick myself apart, but I try to start every day with a smile. I read somewhere once that if you look at yourself in the mirror and smile once you wake up you’re more likely to have a better day.
5. FIND SOMETHING THAT YOU LOVE
This is something that I only recently learned that helps me. Finding that one thing you just love unconditionally that will always be there is so helpful in my low days. It can be your pet, an animal, a certain shirt, or whatever. Personally, the thing I love are sloths. Anytime I look at them I instantly become so happy.
6. APPRECIATE THE LITTLE THINGS
The little things in life are things that sometimes I and many others overlook, but taking the time to stop and take them in and look at them is something that really makes a difference. Sometimes for me, it can be as simple as using a certain mug in the mornings, or someone letting me over when I miss my turn.
7. TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF
PUT. YOURSELF. FIRST. I know life is busy and you don’t want to do it, but putting yourself first and doing life for yourself sometimes is the best thing that you can do. Remember you cannot give it you’re all if you’re not giving yourself your all.
8. DON’T SPEW HATE
Spewing hate everywhere is something that not only is extremely to do, but it is so toxic for you to do. Doing that puts hate in your mind and makes you not want to think happy or give happy vibes off.
9. BE YOU
Be you. Be the person that when you wake up in the mornings you don’t hate. Be someone that you’re proud to tell your grandma about. The kind of person that you would want your future kids to be friends with. Stay true to how you know you are and don’t change to fit the social norms. It’s never worth it. Trust me.
XOXO Hannah Jane